What struck me as the most significant theme of our discussion
was the role of narcissism, particularly as it relates to our social media
interactions. I was reminded of a Time
Magazine article I read about how the millennial generation - or the “me”
generation - has been raised to believe that everyone is special and everyone
is a winner. Yet paradoxically, the
millennial generation has the lowest self-efficacy of any previous generation. I think this goes hand in hand with our newly
hyperlinked, technological world.
Technology has been at the forefront of the millennial generation,
and most of us are exposed to endless amounts of breaking news; largely
depressing and overwhelming. With this
over-saturation of media constantly re-demoralizing us through our social media
streams, it’s no wonder people feel that any attempts to make a difference would
be futile.
I don’t think it’s a coincidence that technology evolved in
a way that allowed us to be even more at the center of our own universe. Not only do our interests and desires control
everything we see in our online communities, but we now have the chance to be
microcelebrities in our own social network world. Sure we aren’t celebrities in the traditional
sense of the term, but to our networks for friends and followers we feel
self-righteous and empowered by likes, retweets, and complimentary posts. We also possess the savoir faire for maximizing our positive feedback, such as bribing
others to pay you attention by commenting and liking their posts, with the expectation
they will return the kind gesture. I’m reminded
of the article “Microcelebrity and the Branded Self” by Theresa Senft, in which
she states,
“the Internet has become a stage, and a successful person
doesn’t just maintain a place on that stage; she manages her online self with
the sort of care and consistency normally exhibited by those who have
historically believed themselves to be their own product: artists and
entrepreneurs. Yet, at the same time that people are beginning to perceive a
coherent online presence as a good and useful thing, they are also learning
that negative publicity can be quite dangerous to one’s employment,
relationships, and self-image.”
Our discussion made me wonder – could all the negative hate
speech online actually be people holding back? Is it perhaps even worse? We feel “safe” in our curated online
communities, but I think everyone understands there is a sense of surveillance
to it. After all, potential employers
could be looking at our pictures, comments and tweets. I’d be curious to know the extent to which people
are censoring themselves for this reason, and on the flip side, to which
they’re sharing content that they just think they should share to be an
“involved citizen”? By the observer
effect, where the act of being observed makes one alter behavior, our online
presence is by definition not us being our true selves (although we have all
seen that person who posts as if they are oblivious to how they appear to a
wide audience), but rather curating our ideal self. Hence people sharing
articles they haven’t even read, or signing online petitions of support for
political movements, but never taking that activism much further.
We also touched upon the question of which is stronger,
desire or narcissism. I would argue that
narcissism is at the root of desire. We
desire things not for sheer pleasure but to trigger the desire or envy of
others –personal gain. Interestingly,
the psychology research I’ve read on narcissism is pretty divided on whether
narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) can be treated or not. A lot of doctors
refuse to treat narcissistic patients, while others practice various techniques
aimed at improving empathy. I was
thinking it might be interesting to study some of these techniques such as EMDR
(eye movement desensitization, and reprocessing) and even danger exposure/reliance
techniques and how social media, augmented reality, or gaming might be used to
actually improve empathy. I’m also
interested in exploring the link between narcissism and aggression into violent
behavior.